Love Hangover
We were creating the greatest love story never told. It was damn near perfect. Twenty-plus years of friendship as the foundation? Check. Vibes on a hundred thousand trillion? Check. My family loves and adores him? Check. We match each other’s fly? SUPER CHECK! We have conversations about things deeper than celebrities, clothes, shoes, and other people? Check. We have conversations about celebrities, clothes, shoes, and other people? Check. I love his children like my own? Check. The list goes on and on and on. In my mind there was no one better for me than him, and I told him so, to which he replied that was his truth as well, no one better for him than me. We just worked, and always had.
We were really close in high school. Somehow every year we
always ended up sharing lockers. His idea, of course. It was like our little
home: neat, organized, tidy, and decorated with a pair of his smiley face
boxers to add his flair and presence since it was always my locker we shared. We
had most of our advanced classes together. We were both super smart, but we hid
it well because we were fresh as hell fashion wise. LOL. He would fall asleep
in class; I would wake him when the teacher started looking a little antsy, and
I would fill him in on what he missed. I always looked out for him. I’ve always
loved him. I honestly can’t remember us not being friends in high school. I can’t
even recall our first conversation. We are both the elder children with one
same sex younger sibling. We talked about how popular our little sibs were, and
how we felt like the younger ones; we talked about our childhoods; we talked
about life. We had real life adult ass conversations as teenagers, both wise
and beyond our years due to both trauma and natural gifting. During our senior
year of school we stopped sharing lockers because his girlfriend hated me and made
him “move out”. My boyfriend was jealous of our relationship, so I had to explain
to my best friend I had to leave a little space between us because I was
working on my relationship with my boyfriend. Life went on, and we didn’t keep
in touch too much after high school save for the occasion check ins. Once I got
divorced we picked back up like we never fell off. He was involved in a serious
relationship, and I had the honor of naming his first child. We had never
hooked up romantically, ever. We never kissed, never touched, never even
mentioned being together. It was all love and purely platonic, at least on my
end.
Life happened, and he was struck with an awful tragedy. I
would call and reach out when I felt his spirit was low. We shared a
telepathic, ESP type bond. I would think about him, and he would text or call.
He would think about me, and I would do the same. It was trippy but oddly
comforting. I loved everything about it. We started communicating more and
hanging out just a smidge more, and then it happened. One night we went out for
Mexican food. My children were with their dad for the Thanksgiving break, and
his children were away as well. After we shared a meal we went back to his
place and binge watched Dear White People on Netflix. He fell asleep during a
few parts, and in between bouts of sleep and watching the show, we talked. We
talked about life, each other, our traumas, spirituality, and any other non-superficial
topic that organically came up. I was falling, and apparently he had fallen
years ago. The next morning I needed to leave to help my mother with
Thanksgiving dinner. We teased, and he leaned over and kissed me, and I kissed
him back. Sex was on the menu, but it wasn’t served because I wasn’t ready. I
hadn’t showered since the morning before, and I had been drinking my ass off,
so my scent wasn’t right to me. Virgo women. LOL. He held me like his life
depended on it, and I melted into his embrace. It felt like home. He didn’t
want me to leave, and I didn’t want to leave, but…Thanksgiving. After I helped
cook and clean I slept through dinner. He and I made plans for the next day. We
went to see Creed II and headed back to his place to finish Dear White People,
only this time the tension was thick. Sex was served, and it was awkward as all
hell. Good as any delectable meal served with perfectly cooked scallops, but
awkward because we had finally crossed the line from friends to lovers.
I fell
fast and was trying to catch my footing while maneuvering from friend to lover
to hopefully in my heart of hearts…wife. I had no reservations about him or the
relationship, but I was trying to process it while just savoring the fact I
felt I had finally found my forever. I could take my shoes off and relax my
soul because I knew he would never hurt me. He had always been gentle with me
and I with him. We were perfect for each other. Less than a month into being
lovers we were presented with a possible pregnancy. The moment was surreal.
After he planted his seed the commentator on the television said, “And the
fertilized egg is carried into the…” We had been watching Blue Planet, I think.
I asked him repeatedly what he wanted to do, and he always hit me with, “It’s
your body. I learned a long time ago not to tell a woman what to do with her
body.” I was torn. Everything in me wanted to have his baby if we were pregnant,
but I had been a single mom most of my adult life, and I didn’t want to bring
another child into the world unsure of where the father and I stood. I took
Plan B. I cried. I cried some more, and I cried even more. I told him, and I
immediately felt him leave me. I asked if it was something we could work
through or if he was done. He said we could work through it. I reached out
numerous times for us to at least talk about it and gain clarity on where we
stood. Nothing. For New Years Eve he left. He didn’t tell me, but I knew. I
felt him. I knew he was with another woman. I felt it. I cried ALL night
because I felt him leave me. I felt the betrayal before it was even spoken. He
wanted the baby. After all my asking and his vague replies, he admitted he
wanted the baby.
I have had my heart broken before, but never like this. This
scattered my heart to pieces, broke me down to the core, pierced me to the
marrow of my soul. This shit hurt. It hurt worse than my divorce. I wouldn’t wish
that on anyone. When we made love I would pray my yoni give him life and be
what he needed it to be. I prayed we ascended, and afterward he would lie in my
arms and between my thighs for what seemed like eternity as I feather stroked
the skin of his arms, back, and shoulders, play in his hair, and listen to him
breath as he went in and out of states of peaceful sleep and rest. I would kiss
his beautiful lips, hold his face in my hands and declare how beautiful he was,
play in his beard while he communed with God inside me. Beautiful is an
understatement. I keep trying to figure out why I can’t get over this, and its
because I shared my innocence with him. I shared my vileness with him. I shared
every range of me with him. I loved him from a place void of space and time. I
loved the me in him. I loved the him in me. I loved him from the space and
frequency in which God resides. I loved him with no reservations. My love was
the truth. You should know the truth by how it feels.
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